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November 2, 2008 10:49 AM

Posted By Shannon

I have no idea.. it's not even 6am! Even with the time change, I'd never be up this early! I'm sure I'll be going back to bed at some point - probably right after I type this! I wonder if Gwen will now wake up at 8am instead of her usual 9!? I sure hope not! haha Although, it could be good for getting stuff done!

We went to Lowes yesterday and got trim for finishing up the kitchen! HOOORAAAY!! It's getting close! I even found some near perfect stain and stained the first batch of trim yesterday (which I guess is my something beautiful for yesterday! haha) Hopefully we can work on this today before game night and have some of the trim put up.. Seriously, you know you're old when moulding gets you excited!

I have that pre-conception appointment tomorrow at U of M.. it's actally IN the hospital.. I wonder if I'll puke on the way in.. or cry.. or both!? I wonder what the midwife was thinking when she suggested I go THERE for this appointment? Aren't there any other doctors that could do it? She mentioned that he does a lot of work with women who have blood disorders that can cause stillbirth (that she assumed he would check my blood for some clotting things that can cause this).. maybe he's the stillbirth expert? I really have no idea! What I want to know from him is when I can try again... I want to hear about the physical aspect.. (emotionally, will I ever be fully ready - for the possibility that this happens again?) I will have another c-section... there will be no VBA2C (vaginal birth after 2 cesareans) in my future.. I've read that after 3 months the uterus is fully healed.. then of course it takes a few months of being pregnant before the uterus increases a whole lot in size, and because I (sadly) should never have a contraction with the next pregnancy, I won't have much risk of uterine rupture anyway. So here are some questions that are popping into my head... am I missing anything? Please chime in - I'm going to bring a list, since I can never remember what to ask..

When is safe to try again? (I'd like January)

What are the risks of trying earlier (I'm assuming that he'll prefer we wait until at least March or June... but I'm not usually one for listening to 'reason')?

Will I give birth to another dead baby? (I'll ask, even though he obviously won't be able to tell me!)

Will I need to see a high risk OB? Can I anyway?

Are there any offices closer to my house than Ann Arbor? (since I will likely have more appointments than normal)

Will I have more appointments than normal?

Do you have a doppler I can use at home? (if not, I'm buying one!)

When is the earliest we can take the baby out, without risking a stay in NICU?

Will I have more ultrasounds than usual?

Is another pregnancy going to make me crazy? umm YES!

I'm currently taking prenatals, are there other nutrients I should be stocking up on?

Well, that's all I can think of for now! Seriously, if anyone has anything else let me know! I'm normally the most low key patient ever! The new Shannon is going the be the most needy patient ever - esp. when it comes to pregnancy!

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Michelle Ravenstone said...

all great questions. let us know how it goes...

November 2, 2008 8:45 PM

kim said...

i don't know your history with Dresden and why you lost him. i lost my daughter because of a cord aneurysm. it was a 'fluke'. i had no clotting disorder and Jorai was growing perfectly...so take this with a grain of salt with what happened with Dresden. my pregnancy wasn't high risk , but my doctor saw me more often, for my own sanity. i also went to a perinatologist for a more thorough ultrasound. but i asked for it. my doc also gave me more ultrasounds and non-stress tests again, to ease my anxiety. i am a naturalist. i gave birth naturally. but i did go with a doc and had my son in a hospital. it gave me a peace of mind i can't explain. we're all different, so i'm not suggesting it for you, but you may want to think about it. the non-stress tests measure the babes heartbeat, my uterine contractions and fetal movement. baring another freak accident, it can tell you that your baby will be fine for 7-10 more days. once i hit 30 weeks. i had one weekly. again, it was done just for me, but it really gave me peace of mind. i got pregnant again 3 months after i lost Jorai. i think it was a bit too soon for my body as i had some joint issues, but i'm glad we went for it. it was both healing and scary, but in 1 year i gave birth twice and for us, it felt right. i gave birth to our daughter on june 3rd, 2007 and our son, june 11, 2008. i wanted a doppler and my doc advised against it, and now, i am glad that we didn't get one. finding a heartbeat is hard...and i think it could cause you some undo worry...but again, if you think it would help, get one. this is about you and shaun. every one is different! i did get a kick counter. i loved that. i wanted to take asher out as soon as i could too...i lost Jorai at 28 weeks, so the 28 week mark was hard for me, but surprisingly, it got a bit easier the further my pregnancy went. of course i was still a basket case, but a healing basket case if that makes sense. i'm thinking about you and i hope you find the answers you're looking for. pregnancy after a loss if hard. unfortunately, it's hard to simply sit back and enjoy it at first, but you'll find yourself feeling more comfortable as you go along. i found the hypnobabies affirmations helpful...you may want to check those out. they're kinda silly, but they helped ease my anxiety. anyway, sorry for the long post. again, i''m thinking about you.

November 2, 2008 2:11 PM

Michelle said...

Here are a couple of questions I thought of, and believe me, I am a high maintenance patient! Will's pediatrician has asked me if I had a medical background because of some of the questions I would ask :) I read everything and ask so many questions. Jon always says, ask Michelle, she probably read about it! And if she hasn't, after you ask her, she will probably look it up! 1. Are there any normal household/enviromental things that I should try to avoid that I wouldn't have thought to? You never know what you touch that gets absorbed in and maybe affects you and the baby. 2. Do I need to worry if I get sick early in my pregnancy and what do I need to do to get better fast? I got sick with this pregnancy and had a high fever in my first trimester and I still worry that it may have an affect on Merry, especially since it seemed like it took forever for me to feel her moving a lot (Will was a squirmer). 3. How would they be if you just need to come in to make sure everything is okay, would they be supportive of that and fit you in to hear the heartbeat or do a quick ultrasound? 4. In the last month, can they administer non-stress tests and ultrasounds once a week up until delivery? Is there something they can do to ready the baby's lungs so you can get your c-section before 39 weeks (say, 37/38) so they don't have respiratory issues? Pediatricians frown on elective cs before 39 weeks due to this fact, but maybe they would consider you higher risk and be able to get around it. If I think of any more before tonight, I will tell you tonight :)

November 2, 2008 11:52 AM